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From: Scott Palasik
Date: 18 Oct 2010
Time: 11:10:28 -0500
Remote Name: 131.95.172.211
Maria, HI! Let me first say, on behalf of Jaime and I, Welcome to the field of Speech-Language Pathology! You have chosen a wonderful time to join this area and your compassion with people will be your strongest asset!...You bring up such great points about counseling parents and getting in touch with the PARENT and CHILD relationship. With counseling, what we can address thoughts that lead to fears (for both the child and parent). For example you said:"If the parent is being too involved and putting too much pressure on their child, their child may feel that they are too involved and being too pushy and may begin to resent their parents for these actions. Where do you draw the line?" Great question. We can ask ourselves, "why is the parent reacting so strong (pushy)? Are they being pushy to FIX the problem? Are they being demanding because of their own insecure thoughts about parenting, themselves, their child? Are they displaying behaviors of being "Demanding" because they "fear" something?...What thoughts lie under those fears and demanding behaviors? What thoughts lie under the reactions (behaviors) of being "pushy?" All reactions (e.g., fears, shame, guilt, pushiness, anger, joy, laughter, etc) come from thoughts...It is the THOUGHTS we want to get at in order to lead parents to making a new choice. We are attempting to provide parents with OPTIONS of reactions, of addressing thoughts. We can start this process of getting parents to create options by using a word like "can". For example, "You need to talk with your child about his stuttering." or "We CAN talk with your child about stuttering." This simple exchange of "can" and "need" allows parents to develop options of reactions and not generate a "rule" that they may not be able to live up to. A rule that can keep them in "Chronic sorrow.".... Thoughts are powerful only if we allow them power. These are just my thoughts from readings from contextual behavioral psychology and Eastern Philosophy along with all kinds of counseling techniques)...Please let us know if you have any more thoughts or questions and good luck in school!!!! With compassion and kindness, Scott